Whether you had an extremely painful breakup, you were laid off from your job or you are working through addictions, letting go of the past is never easy.
In this episode, you will learn a new technique to let go of your baggage and move confidently into the future.
I am in conversation with breakup coach Karla Mejia who uses EFT tapping to break energetic cords that are keeping us stuck. Over the next 40 minutes, we talk about Karla’s journey, the tapping technique, and potential risks if any.
We conclude the session with a tapping session performed on me your host, Sushil.
(01:45) Karla’s journey from Lash extensions to energy work.
(04:41) Techniques for preserving our energetic boundaries
(05:45) How did Karla get into tapping
(07:45) NLP vs EFT Tapping
(10:16) Understanding my weird NLP session
(12:11) How to hack our memories and turn our past into empowering lessons
(15:59) Overcoming victim mindset
(18:22) People are in your life for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. How you can redefine your past and learn from your biggest “oppressors”
(21:31) Healing happens in waves.
(22:57) Are there any risks to the tapping technique?
(25:02) Mini-tapping session practiced on Sushil
(35:42) One tiny change that people can make in their life today.
(37:45) Closing thoughts
“People are in your life for a season, a reason, or a lifetime”
“It's just like a child when they touch something that's hot. You have to have that experience to know I'm not going to do that again”
“Just starting off with those little micro-moments of awareness and pouring love into yourself, I think is going to make a big shift.”
Sushil: Processing breakups and moving on is an important part of the healing journey. And my next guest is here to help us with just that she is a breakup coach who helps her client move past their exes with innovative techniques and project themselves into the future. Please welcome my guest this week. Karla. Mejia. Hi, Karla. Nice to have you.
Karla Mejia: Hi, thank you so much for having me today.
Sushil: It's my pleasure. So yeah, very calling in from
Karla Mejia: I currently live in Brampton, Ontario.
Sushil: nice I guess the stereotype that only Indian people live there is false.
Karla Mejia: Yes, it is. There are, it's very multicultural.
Sushil: Yeah, I would say that I'm finding out how multicultural Canada is with each passing day. Okay. So let's get started. How did you get into up coaching? Why did you pick this particular line of work?
Karla Mejia: So I've been doing energy work and tapping for several years. And. My main business before COVID was doing lash, extensions and facials, and just seeing women struggle through a breakup and hearing all of the stories that they go through and just the struggle to really let go and stop stalking them on social media or trying to figure out what they're doing and figuring out if they've moved on or not. They would always come to me for advice and for just support in general during our sessions together. And I would share with them how I got over my ex and the energy work and mindset work that I would do for myself that I found really helped me help me. And so they started asking me to help them with it.
So I started doing it that way. And so I have clients that after their lashes would ask for a tapping session or a Reiki session and it just evolved from there. So that's when I decided to create an online course so that I wouldn't be repeating myself over and over again and just have an online course for people to go that maybe weren't within driving distance and across the world.
And I can just help more people that.
Sushil: That's amazing. And it sounds like your lash customers are trying to get a bang for their buck, where they getting lashes and therapy done at this. Um,
I love how you turned it into a business model.
When you're in an industry like lashes, you're already being a good listener. When you're talking to clients. And instead of complaining how people are dumping their problems on you. You turned it into a Business
Karla Mejia: yes, definitely. For myself having learning to do energy work and to protect my own energy. When I see my clients and learning how to disconnect from their own energy. Relationships, regardless if it's romantic or platonic or more of in a business setting is all the same. We're all energetically connected.
And at the end of the day, we need some form of detaching from them so that we don't carry that energy with us throughout the day or throughout the week. The same principles apply for myself as a business owner. That's interacting with clients and with breakups and day-to-day.
Sushil: One thing that really stuck out there for me was when you said. We should have a practice to detach ourselves from energy, because as you said, all of us are energetically connected in a way. and there's always this transactional behavior between humans. Like
When someone pisses you off or says something, then you suddenly like rage on them. And then it's an energy drain. It's almost like we are feeding off each other's energy and sometimes taking each other's energy on. So what kind of practices do you do to make sure that your energy boundaries are very secure at the end of.
Karla Mejia: So first we start at the beginning of the day by just setting that intention, that I'm going to stay grounded and anchored in my own energy today. And you can do a visualization of imagining that there's like a bubble surrounding you and protecting you so that other people's energy just bounces, right?
Yeah. And then at the end of the day or after each client you can use Sage you can burn Sage to clear out the energy and you can also set an intention connecting with nature. I have a massage therapist that at the end of every client that she sees, she puts her hands and touches them onto the floor as a way to like. Disconnect from the energy. You can visualize cord cutting. You can do it in many, a variety of ways. You just got to find what feels good for you. And what's the easiest for you to do to incorporate into your regular life.
Sushil: Got it. exactly. How did you get started with this particular technique? This tapping technique? Because I have. Seen too much of it. And the only time I saw it was probably when I saw this documentary called heal on Netflix and they were tapping this one person to help her overcome some physiological condition.
Karla Mejia: Yes. So I had what I would call a quarter-life crisis when I was 25 and everything was. Pretty much crumbling work, personal life health. I had gone through some trauma and I was in denial that I had PTSD. And so I found myself In a really bad state where I basically hit rock bottom and I knew that I needed support.
So I hired a coach and that coach is the one that introduced me to energy, work to that who taught me how to ground myself, how to disconnect my energy from others. And she introduced me to tapping. And then from there I continued my journey with tapping and it really helped me to heal from my PTSD. I was at a point where I was like afraid to leave my house and just like paranoid. About everything too, you know, being able to leave the house by myself and just live my regular life. So that's how I found tapping. And then I've used it for money in terms of quitting my corporate job and I'm doubling my income in my business. And then throughout the pandemic, of course not being able to see clients, but still making the same amount of money.
So it's helped me just stabilize my nervous system so that when I'm in a place of stress I can neutralize that and come into a resting healing state so that I can be creative and get mental clarity on what my next step is and tap into that confidence and that embody the feelings that are required for me to move forward and be successful.
Sushil: Thank you for sharing that. So is this a modality of NLP or neuro-linguistic programming by any chance?
Karla Mejia: It's similar. So tapping is known as a somatic healing approach. It was actually used, they started to use it in the military for people that had PTSD. And the idea is that when you have something that's triggering to you, that you feel a lot of emotions, your brain has what's called the neural pathway. To that experience. So experiences, places or people or things you have an energetic connection to and a neural pathway in your brain that says this thing equals. It's like happy emotions or negative emotions. So let's say, for example, if you speak to somebody about their ex-husband, if you say ex-husband's name, their immediate physical and emotional reaction will be like, it's one of hatred or anger or sadness or whatever river they're at. And. And so we use tapping and tapping. We're using our finger, our fingertips to tap on energy centers within the body. So the points are, it's almost like acupuncture or acupressure, but acupuncture without the needles, we're just using our. And we're tapping on the top of the head, our eyebrow point side of the eye underneath the eye.
And there's like a bunch of other tapping points. We tap on our body as we talk about the thing that's triggering. And as we tap, it helps to release that energy blow. Are those trapped emotions that are in the body.
As we release, we eventually come to a, not a healing state to a neutral place where our subconscious mind is now open to seeing things differently.
It's open to suggestions and you can move on to the other side of the emotional scale to hopefulness and positive expectation and eventually get to like gratitude and And so this healing modality is used for that purpose to move people out of extreme emotion and to move them into a better feeling state.
So in that sense, it is similar to NLP that it takes an experience that's triggering and it tries to create a new, positive expectation for you.
Sushil: Got it. So it is like a reprogramming of sorts as well.
Karla Mejia: Yes, definitely
Very powerful for reprogramming the subconscious mind
Sushil: I went to my first NLP session with this person and I didn't know what I signed up for.
So I went to this NLP session and this guy kept. Doing like a rub with one finger on my forum
and he kept doing that with a certain finger as he was talking. And I'm like, what the hell is he doing? So maybe having that context is like really good.
Karla Mejia: do you know what he's, what he was doing though? Now that you've been through it?
Sushil: He was asking me questions about my childhood. And there were some like episodes from my childhood of a difficult,
And while I kept narrating them, he kept swiping my forum.
So he was basically reprogramming the pathway.
I'm guessing with my childhood.
Karla Mejia: Yeah, it's called an anchor point. So he's anchoring in that experience and emotion to a place in your body and then reprogramming the mind later on to a positive expectation. So anytime, so for example, people use let's say their knuckles, like I want to feel abundant, they'll touch their knuckle and all of those feelings come back, come up of feeling abundant and whatever it is that they wanted to reprogram.
Sushil: Got it. And another thing that stood out when you said was that like people places and things, and I forgot there was another
experiences. They tend to take us back to that state or, it's funny if you had a great relationship with your ex, then when you're in the relationship, you're able to go back to a point.
Uh, Feel happiness or I'm happy that I had this experience, but after a breakup, this experience completely changes.
And like, when you see or hear their name or think of an experience you're immediately in this dreadful state, or you feel like you're back in time in that exact point.
So how do you help them get past that?
Karla Mejia: So the reason for that is because anything that you have an interaction with when you leave that experience and you leave it at that same emotional vibrational state. Unless you change it. So if your last memory with your ex was like the breakup, then when you think about them, you're going to have those dreadful emotions.
And the way that we work through with that, I work through my clients is working through those emotions and also the meaning too, to like the meanings that they place on the experiences working through those, neutralizing them, finding the lessons, and then. Eventually working on an empowering story.
So a lot of times people break up because of infidelity. So there's been cheating. So when they think of their ex the story is. I gave this person everything and they betrayed me. I gave this person everything and they let me down. I gave this I, I was with my ex and when I left, I was sad or I was angry or whatever the emotion is. So we work on finding the lessons. Yeah. Oh, when I was with my ex, he really taught me how to tune into my intuition and to, to, listen to those nudges when I think something's wrong, instead of just ignoring it or instead of needing evidence of the infidelity, I am free to trust myself. And take action based on what I feel inside of me.
I don't need to find the evidence.
I don't need to see the evidence, but if I know that something's wrong and they're not willing to work on it with me and they're gaslighting me or whatever, like, I don't need to stay to find out the truth. I can leave at any time. So those, that was one of my lessons.
So my ex taught me. Had an anchor into like ground myself. He taught me the importance of using my voice. He taught me how powerful my intuition is and how accurate my intuition is. So instead of saying this story of Boohoo, I hate him because he's this and that. And that it's more of, I learned so much with him and I'm grateful.
I get eventually you get to a place where you're grateful for that experience and for that relationship. And do you see it differently? So instead of, if somebody brings up my ex I'm, like I've actually met my ex his ex. And when she brought him up, it was a lot of emotion and still anger. And I was with him for 10 years and we broke up four years ago.
So she was with him, like for her, it's been like 15 years plus. And she still has those intense emotions when you bring up his name.
But for me, When I bring up his name because I've done the work it's neutral. Like I feel nothing. I just remember of course you're going to remember the most intense experiences, which are sometimes not positive, but also I remember the person that I became because of that journey, because of that relationship. And that's what I'm taking with me. And so I always tell my clients. I want you to imagine yourself being 80 years old, and you're sitting in your rocking chair and either the neighborhood kids or your grandkids or whoever's kids is sitting in front of you and they want to know your life story. Are you going to tell the story of Boohoo?
I was with this guy, he betrayed me and then I lived miserable for the rest of my life. Or are you going to tell the story of, I fell in love? I had these amazing lessons. I learned them. And when it was time for me to move on, I moved on and then I lived my best life ever. So it's different energy of. Being the victim and staying in that place. And what was me versus being empowered, taking the good from every situation and getting clear on what it is that you do want and focusing on creating that in your life now.
Sushil: That really resonates with me, especially that last part. About. Being a victim and it's a can of worms to open up this topic of victimhood with people. And it's very difficult when you're in that mindset to see that you're actually being a victim because that did happen to you.
Karla Mejia: For sure.
Sushil: when you're assessing your victim mindset, it's not about minimizing what happened to you, but it's a, it's an addiction or it's a state of trance
to be stuck in that mindset. A book that really explains this well is called the empowerment dynamic.
I believe it's David Emerald, where he has this a triangle of victim mindset where he talks about three roles, which are victim oppressor and savior. And
humanity is like cycling through these roles, and then when you take a step back and get awareness able to move past that.
And as you said, be more empowered in your lives.
Karla Mejia: Yes, definitely. And I think. It's a really important to recognize too, and realize that. And I want to say this with. Caveat that you were the creator of your own reality and yes you didn't intentionally create the betrayal or the horrible experience, but when you know that you're the creator of your own reality, you have a different sense of responsibility for your life, and what happens to you. And even though you didn't. In some way you contributed to the betrayal, meaning there were signs that you saw that you ignored. There was a feeling or something that you ignored and you allowed it to go on. You allowed it to continue. But aside from that, if you come from a place of absolute responsibility for yourself, then it's easier to. Forgive others, because they're just there to teach you a lesson and move on. Like some people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. And so if you can just take that and look at it as this, person's just a messenger of this lesson and I'm fully responsible for myself and take ownership and then decide, okay, from this place, what, how do I want to move forward? And. Just releasing all of the blame and expectation that you have on other people and bringing that back to yourself. I think it's more empowering for me to know that I can change things versus I'm waiting or expecting or trying to make someone else change. Does that make sense? if I'm the victim and I will stay the victim until this person starts acting differently than I will never be happy and I will never get out of that cycle like giving the oppressor the power.
But if I become my own savior, as you were saying with the triangle and I make decisions and set boundaries of no, I will not allow this in my life. Like I will not.
Set those boundaries of what you don't want in your life and what's not allowed and implement them. It'll be much harder for people to take advantage of you in the future.
And you have to go through it to know what it's like to see those lessons. You know what I mean? It's just like a child when they touch something that's hot. You have to have that experience to know I'm not going to do that again because that.
Sushil: Yeah. And I think being removed from it, like by some degrees is very important because just by saying the time is a healer doesn't work. Because if you keep living that experience as if it just happened, or with the same, as you said, energetic vibration, then you're not really learning from it, but you need to be a little removed from that.
Perceive it as if it happened to a third person and then see that what was really happening over there.
Karla Mejia: Yes.
Sushil: another thing that I noticed was that it doesn't necessarily have to be a very negative experience for you to feel like crap sometimes, because in my experience, it was never like a, I had a very abusive relationship or a negative relationship.
In fact, I was with a, very loving person. At the time I felt unworthy or my receiving energy was like completely blocked off. And I felt like I don't deserve this. And I kept finding ways to prove that I'm unworthy and I don't deserve this.
Be very self-destructive. And with time I realized that this person came into my life to teach me self love and see inherent worth in myself.
Karla Mejia: That's so beautiful
Sushil: yeah. So I, I get that. And, , so how much time, or, you know, like You said that you have neutral feelings towards your. How does someone get to that point?
Or how do, how much time could this take or what could accelerate this process?
Karla Mejia: There is no cookie cutter answer to that. Definitely healing does happen in waves. So you get to like a neutral place and then something will happen or somebody will remind you of something or something will come up and you'll be like, wow, I'm super mad at that person. Again, that's happened to me for sure. But. It all depends on how long the relationship was and how much turmoil and volatility there was in the relationship you can and what you decide like you can decide. No, I am done and I am going to work through this and get over this quickly. So I think your intention is super, super important, but there is no like one size fits all, but I think that the faster. That you do work through it. The easier and easier it gets.
Sushil: It's like a muscle, like getting over someone is like, you make a very strong boundary with yourself. No, I will not check the Instagram.
if if David someone else, then that's not my problem anymore because I have to let go of that or not be
Karla Mejia: Even if they're not with someone else, you
still have to like,
Sushil: It's like you keep going back and you keep resetting like the clock or , or delaying the amount of time it could take for you to get better if you're not really energetically, closing off that.
So can anyone do tapping or are there some risks involved in this process?
Karla Mejia: No, risks. Anyone can do tapping. Anyone can do tapping. I do suggest that you follow like a guided video or there's books on like tapping with money, but you follow there is a structure that you follow, um, I think the most important thing is that I wouldn't want you to leave a tapping session.
Only have tapped on the intense emotion. There is a process of moving you through and to being new into a place of neutrality and then moving into positive expectation. So that's the only thing that I would keep in mind is that when you're doing energy work, you do want to leave in a place of feeling neutral or better. I'd never want you to leave in a place of feeling triggered because then that feeling those feelings, you just get stuck in that cycle.
Sushil: I asked this question because in some somatic or energy practices, what they say is that when you're doing the work, he should always ensure that because sometimes you end up in a vulnerable state or something and you want to ensure that those. It was channels are like closed off and you're not like open to taking on some heavy energy or some someone else's baggage.
That's why I was asking.
Karla Mejia: So tapping is a form of energy work, but it's not the same in the sense of doing like breath work or Kundalini yoga, where you're opening yourself up to the spirit world and other entities and anything like that. Um, with chopping you're strictly just working on your own energy and your mindset.
There's, no other. Influences that could affect you as long as you have those channels have already been closed from the beginning. As long as you're walking in, closed off to the spirit world and to any other, anything else and you tap, you're good to go. It's just a matter of when you leave tapping, just make sure that you're leaving off on a neutral or more of a positive emotional.
Sushil: Could we maybe do a quick run through of what a tapping session looks like. I have something I want to let go of.
Karla Mejia: Oh, perfect. Okay. I'm excited. Let me just grab my notebook. Okay. Tell me what is, so you're going to explain to me what you're triggered about or what the emotion is. And I'm going to ask you some questions to get clarity, and then we're going to start tapping on the body points. And I'm going to say phrases.
You're going to repeat after me. And after the first round of tapping, I'll check in with you, see how you feel. And then from there we can go in and do another round. Let me know what you want to tap on today.
Sushil: So I want to let go of perfectionism. I feel like sometimes what happens is I get into this mindset that something I put out has to be perfect. And if if it's not perfect and I never do it. And what happens is this perfectionism keeps me from running more experiments as in put more stuff out there and then collect feedback.
Reiterate and then keep improving as opposed to, I feel like it has to be perfect the first time.
Karla Mejia: Okay. So you would like to put more stuff out there, get feedback and make it better. Is that what you're saying?
Sushil: Yeah, it's more don't waste time. Perfecting it before you put it out there. If it's imperfect, that's fine. You can put it out there then assess what the feedback is and then reiterate. I'm saying this because this morning I spent like several hours editing an episode because I felt like the voice, my voice was somewhat scratchy on the audio.
I would most reco rerecorded my site entirely.
Karla Mejia: oh my God. Okay. So I want you to close your eyes and imagine you putting something out there for the world to see that is by far not perfect at all. And tell me, what are the emotions that come through your body
or the sensation? there's a tightness in my jaw. Some sort of, I feel like I'm getting compressed. Like, I feel like people are judging me or I feel like they're seeing this imperfect imperfect thing that I put out there and I feel embarrassed that it's out there.
Which sensation or feeling is the strongest embarrassment fear of judgment.
Sushil: Fear of judgment.
Karla Mejia: Fear of judgment. Okay. And on a scale of one to 10, 10 being most intense one being zero, how intense is this fear of judgment?
Karla Mejia: Seven. Okay.
Sushil: Is it weird if it's self judgment?
Karla Mejia: Tell me more about it.
Sushil: It's almost like I keep judging. Oh I project a sense of judgment onto someone else, but I keep have this internalized judgment where it's not good enough. It's not good enough. It's not good enough. And what happens is this perfectionism makes me keep fixing something before even knowing if it's broken.
Karla Mejia: And would you say that you feeling miserable going through this process feels accurate for you right now? Where are you just saying as like a statement of you're not having fun, then you're miserable.
Sushil: It's kind of like
Karla Mejia: obsession?
Sushil: Yeah. It's a very obsessive behavior. They're like, it's crazy. I read recorded like half a podcast just because my voice sounded weird. So, what do you know? It's it's not like I'm putting it out there for like billions of people to hear and you know,
Karla Mejia: The purpose is not to judge your voice. The purpose is to like, get value out of the content that you're sharing, but all you can think about is how your voice sounds.
Karla Mejia: Is there anything else you feel is important to share?
Sushil: Yeah, I want to make , peace with being imperfect.
And that's the idea of this podcast as well. It's not called Hillwood social because I'm some master healer or who has all the answers. It's just a guide. Looking to improve each day, but want to make peace with being imperfect
Karla Mejia: Okay. And on a scale of one to 10, how much do you believe that you can feel at peace being in perfect 10 being that you fully believe it?
Sushil: that I can, or 10
Karla Mejia: Okay. So you believe that you can be at peace being in perfect.
Karla Mejia: Okay. Perfect. Okay. So I want you to just take a nice deep breath sinking into your chair, and when you're ready, we can start tapping on the side of your hand. And you're just going to repeat after me, even though I have this obsession
Sushil: Even though I have this upset.
Karla Mejia: to pick apart and judge myself.
Sushil: To pick up art and judge myself.
Karla Mejia: I'm choosing to love and honor who I am,
Sushil: choosing to love and honor who I am,
Karla Mejia: even though I feel like my work is not enough
Sushil: even though I feel my work has not enough.
Karla Mejia: in a criticize myself,
Sushil: I criticize myself.
Karla Mejia: because my work is not perfect.
Sushil: Because my work is not perfect.
Karla Mejia: I'm choosing to love and honor who I am now,
Sushil: I'm choosing to love and honor who I am now,
Karla Mejia: even though I feel a bit embarrassed
Sushil: even though I feel a little embarrassed
Karla Mejia: to put my stuff out there,
Sushil: to put my out there.
Karla Mejia: I'm choosing to honor where I am now.
Sushil: I'm choosing to honor where I am now.
Karla Mejia: Top of that. I'm stuck in this cycle of perfectionism.
Sushil: I'm stuck in the cycle of perfectionism.
Karla Mejia: I rail point, if it's not perfect, then I don't want to put it out there.
Sushil: If it's not perfect and I don't want to put it out there.
Karla Mejia: Side of the eye. I feel all of this tightness in my jaw,
Sushil: I feel all of this tightness in my jaw.
Karla Mejia: underneath the eyes. I feel my body being compressed.
Sushil: I feel my body being compressed,
Karla Mejia: Underneath the nose, just the thought of putting my work out there for the world to see
Sushil: just the type of putting my work out there for the village.
Karla Mejia: underneath the mouth brings up so much emotion in my body
Sushil: Brings up so much emotion to my body.
Karla Mejia: colorable point, I feel embarrassed.
Sushil: I feel embarrassed.
Karla Mejia: Underneath the arms. I'm afraid that other people will just judge me
Sushil: I'm afraid that other people will judge me,
Karla Mejia: underneath the chest, but we're still of all
Karla Mejia: first points. It doesn't amount to the judgments that I have for myself.
Sushil: It doesn't amount the judgment I have for myself.
Karla Mejia: Top of the head. I just feel like my work is not good enough.
Sushil: I just feel like my work is not good enough.
Karla Mejia: I wrote point, I have this obsession of fixing things
Sushil: this obsession of fixing.
Karla Mejia: side of the eye before I even know it's broken.
Sushil: Before I even know it's broken.
Karla Mejia: Underneath the eyes. I can't bear to think of putting my work out there
Sushil: I can't bear to think of putting my work out there
Karla Mejia: underneath the nose and having other people see it as imperfect
Sushil: and having other people see it as impact.
Karla Mejia: underneath the mouth. I can't put my work out there.
Sushil: I can't put my work out there.
Karla Mejia: Collarbone point. Me knowing that it's imperfect
Sushil: Me knowing that it's imperfect,
Karla Mejia: underneath the arms, I feel like it drives me crazy
Sushil: I feel like it drives me crazy.
Karla Mejia: underneath the chest. I feel all of this embarrassment,
Sushil: I feel all of this embarrassing.
Karla Mejia: first points, so much judgment I have for myself.
Sushil: So much judgment I have for myself,
Karla Mejia: Top of the head because I want my work to be perfect.
Sushil: because I want my work to be perfect,
Karla Mejia: I wrote point feeling all of this tightness in my body,
Sushil: feeling all of this tightness in my body.
Karla Mejia: Side of the eye, feeling the compression in my body.
Sushil: Feeling the compression in my body.
Karla Mejia: Underneath the eyes. When I think about the world, seeing my work
Sushil: I think about the world, seeing my work
Karla Mejia: underneath the nose as imperfect
Sushil: as imperfect,
Karla Mejia: underneath the mouth, but I know that I am my biggest critic
Sushil: but I know that I'm my biggest critic.
Karla Mejia: collarbone point, and I just want to be at peace with myself.
Sushil: And I just want to be at peace with myself
Karla Mejia: Underneath the ums being imperfect,
Sushil: being imperfect.
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Karla Mejia: Take a nice deep breath. And what's coming up for you now?
Sushil: That felt really good. And a lot of ideas started coming in. ,
Karla Mejia: . Okay, perfect. And then that fear of judgment. What number is that at now?
Sushil: two or three.
Karla Mejia: Okay, perfect. So that is. An example of a tapping round, where we take somebody who is feeling intense emotion, you had a fear of judgment of a seven, and now you can laugh at yourself and see how this fear is not so scary. And now it's at a two or three and you can start to tap into those feelings and believe the version of yourself. Can show up that can be silly. And you're willing to take that risk of doing things the way that you want.
Sushil: Yeah, and full disclosure. I just use the ruse of a podcast interview to get a free tapping sessions.
I'm just joking. Karla before we conclude. Would you be able to suggest a tiny change that our listeners could incorporate right now? To improve their lives.
Karla Mejia: Yes. One thing that I feel is so important is for people to connect in with their heart and how they truly feel. I think that for so many of us, we're used to being on autopilot and just running and trying to get as much done as we can at the expense of our health and happiness. And I started this practice. Probably over seven years ago, but having a reminder on my phone that goes off three times a day, and it is to simply put your hand over your heart and take a nice deep breath and connect in with your body, connect in with yourself and ask yourself, how am I doing right now? What am I feeling? And what do I need for myself? So sometimes we are ignoring our feelings and we feel frustrated or we're trying to push through things, simply acknowledging the feelings and allowing yourself to feel them so that you can let them flow through you and also supporting yourself. What do you need right now? If you have pre pandemic, I know it's like that hustle and bustle.
Go. Maybe you need a drink of water. Maybe you need a bathroom break. Maybe you need to stretch. What is it that your body needs? What is it that your soul needs for you to feel happy in this moment? And really just starting off with those little micro moments of awareness and pouring love into yourself, I think is going to make a big shift.
I know it has for me. And that's one of the things that I tell my coaching clients to do when we first start working together is taking you just need to manage. To tap into yourself. Breathe, take a nice deep breath, relax your shoulders and give yourself whatever it is that you need to support yourself in this moment.
Sushil: That's a beautiful thought to close on. And Karla, it's been an absolute pleasure to have you on this episode, and wish you the very best In everything that you do, if it's your business and everything that you enter into. And yeah, I'm very grateful for the tapping, the mini tapping session that we did back there.
It was immensely beneficial.
Karla Mejia: You're welcome. It's my pleasure.
Sushil: And, where can someone find.
Karla Mejia: So you can find me on my firstname.lastname@example.org and I'm also on Instagram, under breakup coach, Karla, and on Facebook.
Sushil: Awesome. And I'll be plugging all that information in show notes. So you can reach out to Karla if you're struggling with something that you really want to let go of.
Karla Mejia: Perfect. Thank you.
The Breakup Coach
Karla helps women heal from their past relationships with men & money so that they can create the future that they really desire. By integrating mindset, energy & spirituality she ensures her clients have a gentle yet powerful transformation as they move through change in their life.